my experiment is called happiness

while i was typing the last post, i had received a message in my message box for commenting on the girl who was graced with that comments page. the message was an extremely long, repetitive, and scattered babble about how horrible homosexuality is and how i am THE problem for being gay.

this is the message:
I am sorry to inform you that your gay experiment won't have a future. Please try to understand this. It was fun for a while, like watching weird looking animals in a zoo, but only as long as you were hiding and not showing your affection to the same sex in public. Years ago, homosexuality was merely the base for novels or movies. But now that you are demanding equal rights, we straight people have to face a real problem. You are naughty and greedy. You have overdone things. And because you demand too much, you won't get anything.
There can be a feeling of profound friendship between two members of the same sex, yes, but never love. Never ever. You can be friends with another girl. But you can never ever love another girl. That's not possible. There is a reason why two sexes (male and female) exist.
I have to say that you don't understand what you and your fellow homosexuals are trying to do. You want to question what we straight people value: marriage between a man and a woman, adoption rights, sociall/tax benefits for husband and wife, the safety a normal family can provide for their children and many other things.
I want to say that I will use every legal measure to keep off homosexual people from having equal rights.
There isn't an endless amount of human rights available, we have to deploy our resources carefully and wisely.
Eventually you will understand this one day.
It is unbelievable how you, the LGBTQ people think that your sexual orientation could ever be socially accepted. It is such a miscalculation to assume that you would ever be equal. You can never expect that. Never ever. I will take every legal measure to fight you, I will try to avoid contact with you in real life. I don't want to be touched by you (e.g. by shaking hands), I don't want to sit next to you in a bus, I don't want you in or near my family. I might have already met gay people, that's why we need some sort of worlwide database where all the LGBTQ people are listed. So that we normal (=straight) people can avoid you.
There are things in the world that are just not okay. Being gay is one of them. I would love to be able to avoid you, but even in my peaceful, normal city there was a "Pride" this summer, a LGBTQ march for equal rights. How dare you to claim that homosexuality is normal.
Most straight people don't show openly their aversion for you, but that doesn't mean that they approve your lifestyle. Straight people might not beat you up, they might even talk and smile to you, but only on the outside. On the inside they wait until the laws that protect you will become invalid and then...dare you.
If you can't conform to our (straight) society, you won't be a part of our society.
We will get rid of the gays. One way or another.
We can't allow gay people to go for their sexual orientation. If everyone did what gays do, the world would turn into chaos. Even to imagine how two girls/two guys make out is unbearably disgusting.
As soon as scientists will find the "gay gene", there won't be any gay babies anymore in this world. Then we can get rid of the gays from the very beginning.
LGBTQ people won't have a future, that's why they should become normal immediately.
And because only 2-3% of all people are gay, we can abandon them. The world population is already large enough, why should we keep the gays alive?
It isn't anything personal, it's just a job.
Please try to understand that this is necessary.
Homosexuality is, like pedophilia, an abnormal sexual behaviour. A disability. A flaw. Something you HAVE to fight.
If you can't control your emotions then you're - excuse my language - fucked.
Discipline, self control, rational thoughts should always dominate your mind.
I'm not very religious, and I don't know what God wants. We just have to deal with the facts: why are far more than 90% of all people straight? Because we are RIGHT and you homosexuals are WRONG.
The reason why you are gay is that you want attention, or you want to find an excuse why you can't live your life to the fullest, or why you don't need to reproduce, maybe you even want to find a reason to sue your former employer for firing you. Then you tell everyone 'Oh it's because I'm gay, he/she fired me because of this!'
Your wrong sexual orientation disgusts me to no end.
Suppressing your wrong feelings for the same sex and your abnormal libido, that’s what you should do. It’s a matter of discipline. Until scientists will find a medicine that helps against homosexuality, you gay people are on your own to fight it. Because it is you who are causing the problem.
Never forget: as long as you are gay, you are a lesser human being. You are weak and vulnerable. We normal (=straight) people can do with you whatever we want to.
Soon you will be very sorry for who you are. You will apologise to all of us normal people.
-smartypants (smarty2010pants@googlemail.com)


and this is my response:
this "question" appeared in my message box as i was typing up that last post. as i have been straightening my hair i have been debating whether or not it warrants a response. a part of me sees that this anon obviously wants attention and by some insecurity in his/her own life has found a necessity to try and rid others who are different of their rights and happiness in their own lives. i do not want to give this person that satisfaction or attention. on the other hand, i see such commentary as an avenue to respond and share awareness of the hate and bigotry that does exist. for the latter reason, i have decided to respond to the message.

this message is rather long and repetitive as well as scattered in thought. so where to start?...

you say that 2-3% of people are gay. im not sure where you get your statistic or if it is even accurate, but since i do not know a statistic off the top of my head, lets pretend it is the current presented statistic. it has been noted that that is one of the most difficult statistics to gather and the the statistic is likely much higher than the calculated because so many people are closeted and/or fear disclosing that information on surveys. it is truly a shame that so many people have to live denying a part of who they are and internalizing hate and inferiority for being human, but small minded individuals and bigoted rhetoric lead to a fear of such expression and acceptance. being that you are fearful of shaking hands with homosexuals and even sitting next to homosexuals on a bus do you really think it is wise to encourage a homosexual to repress such an identity. would you appreciate learning that you are in a relationship and sharing intimacy with an individual who has repressed his/her sexual identity to conform to society as you put it?

i also beg to question how wanting equal rights, the ability to marry and adopt children, etc. is questioning the values of straight people. rather, it is is accepting and appreciating those values as homosexuals, as humans share those same values and want the blessed opportunity to share in those journeys of life. as a teacher i have had the pleasure of meeting children who come from homes of all different lifestyles, straight two parents families, single parent families, divorced parents, gay two parent families, broken families, etc. and all the children are beautiful and different in their own. the children of the gay parents are just as warm and friendly, mischievous, full of honorable values, etc. at those who come from families with straight parents.

now, when sexual relations between straight folk is never equated with a handshake, abortion is no longer used as birth control, and marriage regains sanctity as a union and commitment and not temporary venture, you come and talk to me about the "abomination" of homosexual behavior and how it is THE problem.

tell me this, do you not love your mother and father, your aunt, uncle, grandparents, siblings, other family members? is it incestuous to love your family? love does not equate romantic relationship, but rather a strong emotional attachment and an intimacy or sorts that reflects either the platonic or romantic relationship at hand. let me tell you, that some of my strongest bonds of love are among my friends, male and female, whom i have no romantic attachment to. so yes, it is entirely possible for two girls who share a friendship to love one another, it is also entirely possible for two people or any orientation of share romantic love and it is extraordinarily beautiful when that love is true, honest, and real.

and i will leave you with this note. no part of my life is an experiment, it is a journey and an exploration. i do not regret anything i have done to reach this point in my life. i look forward to each day and i continue to live my life in happiness and appreciation for my beautiful existence.


any would someone like to answer a question for me... how does one person having rights take any rights away from anyone else? rights are not like a limited edition print, two people being free does not make either any less free.